How to Support Someone with MS
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Right before Thanksgiving, I had an MRI and learned that the area of MS-related damage to my brain had doubled in size. In short, my MS has progressed “significantly” over the past year.
It wasn’t a huge surprise. I could barely get out of bed this past summer. I’ve been in constant pain throughout my entire body, and my right foot has been numb for several months.
Still, I had hope that my symptoms were only temporary and I could bounce back, that this was just a rough patch. But seeing it in black and white on my medical report made it undeniable. The hope I was clinging to suddenly felt fragile.
At first, I only shared the results with my mom and two close friends. The truth is, as much as I wanted to open up, I wasn’t ready to face the “look”—that mix of pity, fear, and sadness that so often follows. It’s a reminder of something I already know too well: MS is unpredictable, and it can be hard for others to understand what living with it is really like.
Sometimes, it feels easier to keep it to myself. People mean well, but when the words don’t come or they say the wrong thing, it can leave me feeling even more isolated.
How do you explain the exhaustion of carrying this reality while also trying to stay hopeful?
How do you balance sharing your truth with protecting your peace?
Why Emotional Validation Matters
When someone you love is living with MS, it’s natural to want to help. But often, the most meaningful support you can offer doesn’t involve fixing a problem or finding solutions—it’s about being there and validating their feelings.
Emotional validation is a simple yet powerful way to show that you see their struggles, hear their concerns, and are walking alongside them on this journey.
Living with MS comes with challenges that can feel overwhelming, isolating, and misunderstood. Emotional validation helps your loved one feel seen and supported. Here’s why it makes such a difference:
Acknowledgment: Validating their feelings shows that their emotions are real and important.
Comfort: It lets them know they’re not alone in what they’re experiencing.
Empowerment: Feeling understood can give them the confidence to face their challenges.
What Does Emotional Validation Look Like?
Listen Without Judging
Sometimes, they just need to vent. Instead of offering solutions, focus on listening.
Say: “That sounds so frustrating. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.”
Avoid: “You’ll be fine, just stay positive.”
Acknowledge Their Emotions
Let them know it’s okay to feel whatever they’re feeling.
Say: “It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed. You’re carrying so much.”
Avoid: “Don’t worry, it’s not a big deal.”
Offer Your Presence
You don’t need to have all the answers—just being there is enough.
Say: “I’m here for you, no matter what you need.”
Avoid: “I don’t know how to help, so let me know when you figure it out.”
Celebrate Small Wins
MS can make even everyday tasks feel monumental. Celebrate their efforts and progress.
Say: “I’m so proud of how you handled that appointment today.”
Avoid: “That’s no big deal—everyone does that.”
How You Can Make a Difference
As a caregiver or loved one, your role is invaluable. Emotional validation might seem small, but it can have a profound impact on their mental and emotional well-being.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is, “I hear you, and I’m here for you.” 🫶🏿
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